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Social Conditioning

Reach out for a Solution

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This is the fourth and last guideline for my healthy and peaceful life style.
I believe the answers are already blowing in the wind. No need to rack my mind with analysis which end up like ruminations anyway. I believe the answers are at best within me. But I must be in the right disposition to hear. This means going to my finer self.
No need to do case studies. I am too old for such at 73. No need for analysis that leads to paralysis. I just have to allow the intuitive in me to bubble up.
There is no need to struggle. I learned from Lynn Grabhorn in “Beyond the Twelve Steps” that God wants me to have everything. All I need to do is access his gifts.
According to M.Tamura: “truth is within. It is never outside our being.”
He continued: Give power to your inner being, that’s always in touch with God. There is no standard ‘right’ or ‘better’ choice. Remember, the truth is in you, not in the choices. You can consult others for information and opinions , but only to find and validate your own intuitive knowing.”
“If we pollute our awareness with ignorance, indifference, resistance, attachment and powerlessness, we would not be able to express the omniscience, omnipresence, and omnipotence of divinity.”
“Life must be able to flow through our body unimpeded. We must truly let our light shine.”

Understanding the situation/s

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Experience has taught me how wrong many of my initial impressions are. My immediate reactions are usually resistant. I hardly give room for wisdom to guide me. I keep forgetting what I have learned from my favorite authors.
Now, I sometimes laugh at how foolish ,even arrogant, I have been. I have been angry, frustrated, disappointed, frightened etc at situations which I thought were specifically sent to punish me. Why me? Indeed, why me? among the millions, even billions in the universe.
What adds to my resentments is my wrong interpretation of the Law of Attraction. What did I do to merit this? Again, Why me? But it’s not about deserving. It’s a matching of vibrations.
Boorstein wrote: “Remember whatever is happening will change, and what you add to th situation is part of the change. Agonizing makes it worse.”
Laura Day wrote something similar: “Things are what they are. Ruminating won’t change them nor will it provide an insurance policy for avoiding pain in the future.”

Michael Tamura has written the most significant reminder for me: “when crises arise in your life, they aren’t due to something inherently wrong with you. Although you may take them personally, situations in your life don’t happen to you. They just happen and you are involved in them according to the way you respond to [them].”

The above certainly does not allow me to ask: “Why, me?”

Tamura also wrote: “If you are reaching deeper within yourself with compassion, perseverance, and forgiveness as you work toward the goal or victory then you learn and grow. And that makes you capable.”

Another nugget of wisdom from Tamura said: “The more we can disengage our awareness from reactive emotion and reclaim our neutrality, the better we can realign ourselves to our soul energies, awareness and purpose.”

Managing the Emotions

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What I wrote about the finer self was too idealistic. I believe the following from Boorstein is doable:
“…the natural mind …is free of tensions and doesn’t allow attachments to become entrenched. Preferences arise, but they dissipate without causing problems when the mind is relaxed. Annoyance also arises, but it doesn’t take up residence. Fears and hurts, feelings, doubts and desires, all come up in response to challenges and disappointments but they don’t linger; they don’t upset basic clarity.”
What a relief to read that challenges and disappointments are not only real but that they can be surmounted.
Specifically, to manage emotions Boorstein wrote: “Using concentration, settle the mind to ground it to some composure.” I am glad there is something from my school, church, home training that I can use: composure.
“Try to stay unconfused and connected to your own kindness.” This is hard for me. With my penchant for ruminations and my so-called management training and development courses, my natural bent for analysis is a burden.
“Remember, whatever is happening will change, and what you add to the situation is part of the change. Agonizing makes it worse.”
“You do the best you can, and then you live with what happens. What else can you do?”
“Tell yourself, Sweetheart, you are in pain. Relax. Take a breath. Let’ pay attention to what’s happening then we’ll figure  out what to do.”

Inspiring Worldview

12974478_920849024701612_8061313007924739825_nWeeks ago I reviewed “Stepping into the Magic” by Gill Edwards. I bought the book as early as 2002. I seriously studied the book in 2003 and in 2014. In 2016 I have far better insights.

Sadly for me, I discovered from Facebook that Gill Edwards died in 2011 from cancer. I am puzzled that for all her serious work on consciousness she, like Wayne Dyer, had cancer. But I learned that they both left their bodies peacefully.

From Gill Edwards I learned:

“I believe that our first responsibility is to make our lives work. By finding inner peace, for example, we are contributing towards global peace…”

“World peace begins with inner peace. Once we have found inner peace, we might choose to approach the issue of world peace from a higher perspective and therefore have a greater impact.”

“Inner and outer constantly mirror each other. They are two sides of the same coin.”

“This only sounds crazy if we forget that everything is onscious energy, and that we create our own reality.”

Wisdom Prevails

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     According to Sylvia Boorstein: “When the heart is noncombative, when it is peaceful- which happens when it is loving – the mind is clear. Wisdom prevails. We understand painful things happen because that’s the way life is. Complete God love, clear mind allows us to forgive life.”
     “The possibility of steadfast loving allows life – whatever its particulars- to always remain a gift.”
     But even Sylvia does not believe in passive acceptance of fate. So I read elsewhere in one of her books. Lately after I “surrender” after I stop struggling with the situation my mind relaxes and I get better insights. I no longer believe that God is punishing me when ordered food is delivered late. Instead I take time to think: “how can I get better service?”
     M. Tamura suggested: “When crises arise in your life, They aren’t due to something inherently wrong with you. Although you may take them personally, situations in your life don’t happen to you. They just happen and you are involved in them according to the way you respond to  [them].”
     I have new insights as to why I had my fall last March 16 after all I announced I would no longer be using my cane. I now think of specifics to improve my balance, to improve my diet etc.
 I think of how much vegetables to eat to improve my blood circulation to make sure my organs don’t suffer from oxygen depletion as learned from Dr Sarno.
     I even spend time planning more WAKI pen time – more than 300 counts. I also think of how much to increase my application of Dr Netario Cruz’ magnesium spray.
     I think of how to manage my emotions – not to repress them otherwise I will suffer from oxygen depletion. I think of how to get in touch with my finer self, deepen my understanding of the situation and reach out for solution already blowing in the wind as taught by Rabbi Balfour Brickner.