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Social Conditioning

Self-Esteem in the 2018’s

“We simply cannot rely on others to give us constant validation, and yet we crave it. (Laws of Human Nature” by Robert Greene.

Greene suggests: “We create a Self, an image of ourselves that comfort us and makes us feel validated from WITHIN.”

Breene continues:”This self is composed of our tastes, our opinions, how we look at he world, what we value.”

“Eventually we are no longer completely dependent on others for attention and recognition. we have SELF-ESTEEM.”

Relatedly I found timely the yearly Digital Youth Summit held by Mano Amiga together with Facebook.

I personally find noteworthy: “We believe countering hate speech with more hate speech will only lead to further division.” (Karlo Jess Abecial, an advocate for responsible use of social media.

I have yet to stop reacting, not responding, to fake news and hate speech against our current president of the country whom I support.

My New Dream

My dream is to do cognitive therapy. I don’t want to do the usual commercialized training sessions. I don’t believe in ONE-SIZE-FITS-ALL programs.

I want to help others manage their thoughts about ABUNDANCE that covers HEALTH, FINANCIAL STABILITY, SPIRITUALITY etc. I want to be able to use th individual’s story and Suggest relevant guidelines. Needless to say, I don’t want my clients to be co-dependent on me.

I don’t want to compete with licensed medical doctors, bt I want to educate my clients to interact with their doctors. I know this is dangerous territory because doctors are jealous of their time and their knowledge. However, my hospitalization last August 2018 showed that it is now possible to interact with some doctors. (The mainstream doctors don’t seem to realize that much, much more that what they learned in medical school is easily available in the Internet). of course, they will argue that the Internet is not reliable.

My visit to the A and E department of Mount Elizabeth Hospital in singapore this November 4, 2018 gives me a lot of hope. The set-up itself is like a hotel not a hospital. The particular doctor assigned to me was a caring and funny doctor. All the time he was active on his laptop. He was conversant with the latest from the WorlD Health organization about sausages etc. The pork sausages which i feasted on during hotel breakfasts caused my BP to soar.

I want to educate my clients about the value and wonders of self-healing. “Our natural or indigenous self….knows intuitively what it needs.” (Energy Prescription” by Goulds and Childe)

Facebook has a lot of more recent quotations about health from; Dr Bruce Lipton, louise Hay, Wayne Dyer, Gary Zukav etc.

The late Dr Sarno taught that all pain is essentially a depletion of oxygen. “Most preventable illness is a by-product of depleting habits and behaviors that are derived from unhealthy thinking and emotional patterns, So health necessarily involves a change of consciousness.” (Energy Prescription” by Goulds and Childe)

I won’t and can’t compete with the ministers of institutional religion who certainly have the One-SIZE-FITS-ALL mentality spread through sermons and prescribed rituals. I want to educate my clients about who they really are. That God is not a punishing God who sends illnesses of various types. The constant preoccupation with sin and guilt is very wrong psychologically to say the least.

Like George Sison, Tato Malay, Wayne Dyer, Gary Zukav , Lynn Grabhorn, louise Hay Dr Bruce lipton etc I want to work on the consciousness of people like.Joe Vitali who taught Ho’oponopono, Serge Kahili King who taught the principes of Urban Shamanism.

I believe that when we awaken to our divinity, we will contribute to the
change of consciousness of humanity and eventually make our earth the
the “kingdom of heaven” as claimed by a Hawaiian spiritual leader, Aunty Mahealani..

I want to share my many experiences with being unhealthy. “For animals,
unburdened by the need to translate physical sensations into abstract language, emotions function smoothly, as they were meant to be.” (“The Laws of Nature” by Robert Greene

Now I know why i am forever stressed. “We dwell on our fears, intensifying them and making them last well past the moment of danger, even to the point of feeling constant anxiety.” (THe Laws of Nature” by Robert Greene) Like an average human this is what I have been doing- unhealthy behavior of course.
The answer: COGNITIVE THERAPY.

I Don’t Blame God

God gave me everything I would need before I decided to come into this world. It’s my unbelief that prevents me from accessing all the gifts. God is not to blame.

Until I am healed of my unbelief I will wait at the hallway (according to a Facebook post by a cousin of mine) until the door of FAITH is completely opened.

So, until the door of FAITH is completely opened, I will have to deal with my stomach problems, my allergies, my walking disability.

My environment does not help much but I am being guided on Facebook by: Neale Walsch, Wayne Dyer, Louise Hay, Gary Zukav. Of course I have a living model in my husband. Many times Tato Malay helps.

I am allergic to Facebook posts that smack of religion because of my personal history. My perception of religion as hypocrisy is due to my personal history. Ironically, I was once very religious.

Now I believe in God more than ever. I no longer blame anything nor anybody. Ho’oponopono has taught me well.

I have even stopped blaming my too analytical AIM studies, my former bosses who kept focusing on what could go wrong. I no longer blame my critical Literature studies and my analytical Literature teaching.

Ultimately, it is a matter of PERSONAL CHOICES.

Current World View

For around 6 years now, because of Joe Vitale’s Ho’oponopono protocol, BLAMING has not been part of my worldview. This Year on my 75th I have been feeling the unpleasant side of aging, to say the least. I have had a lot of allergies. i have even developed lactose intolerance and can no longer enjoy Fettuccine, Carbonara etc. I have even stayed away from pancit, noodles, pizza.

I used to simply spray away my body aches and pains with the magical magnesium spray o Dr Jean Netario Cruz. But lately my skin smarts from the lotion- after 6 years!

I have moved away from the books of Sylvia Boorstein. I am now more comfortable with the Facebook posts of: Louise Hay, Wayne Dyer, Dr Bruce Lipton and sometimes Gary Zukav. After my recent hospitalization my threshold of pain has gone down even lower. Sometimes I get very impatient with my health challenges. It is getting harder to stay firm in my belief that my God is not a punishing God

Days ago, as if to taunt me Dr Lipton posted on Facebook : “When your mind says ‘Give up. Hope whispers: ‘Try one more time”.”

I am consoled with memories, PLEASANT ones of my recent hospitalization.
I had even more fun with my nurses than in 2016 when I had my hip surgery. I enjoyed the every 4hour ritual of BP and Blood sugar monitoring though I COMPLAINEd a lot, and how. I enjoyed with a female singing elevator operator. I felt secure with the burly wheelchair pusher who brought me to various high tech procedures.

Of course I like my doctors his time around. i realized i can no longer hold on to my claim of being my best doctor. The high tech procedures are far superior to the manual monitoring of my health day in and day out.

I guess I need to RESPOND to the challenges of aging and not to react, muh less to overreact!