What I wrote about the finer self was too idealistic. I believe the following from Boorstein is doable:

“…the natural mind …is free of tensions and doesn’t allow attachments to become entrenched. Preferences arise, but they dissipate without causing problems when the mind is relaxed. Annoyance also arises, but it doesn’t take up residence. Fears and hurts, feelings, doubts and desires, all come up in response to challenges and disappointments but they don’t linger; they don’t upset basic clarity.”

What a relief to read that challenges and disappointments are not only real but that they can be surmounted.

Specifically, to manage emotions Boorstein wrote: “Using concentration, settle the mind to ground it to some composure.” I am glad there is something from my school, church, home training that I can use: composure.

“Try to stay unconfused and connected to your own kindness.” This is hard for me. With my penchant for ruminations and my so-called management training and development courses, my natural bent for analysis is a burden.

“Remember, whatever is happening will change, and what you add to the situation is part of the change. Agonizing makes it worse.”

“You do the best you can, and then you live with what happens. What else can you do?”
“Tell yourself, Sweetheart, you are in pain. Relax. Take a breath. Let’ pay attention to what’s happening then we’ll figure  out what to do.”