This essay was inspired by an incident report on a mother-daughter sensitive exchange I read on Facebook last July 30. The report was written by a former college student of mine in her early 30s.

The report brought back poignant memories revolving around my own sensitive exchange with our own daughter who was then a graduating student in high school.

I had been diagnosed with severe clinical depression after weeks of visits to the emergency room and hospital confinement due to hypertension. Our daughter was devastated. Her supermom had feet of clay after all.

Generously, Cynthia Patag, sent a close friend, an ex-nun to help our daughter process what was going on in our lives. She had to grow up. She had to accept my limitations.

My former college student who wrote on Facebook must have raised her daughter in a progressive manner. For how could the daughter have retorted if the atmosphere at home was oppressive.

Unlike my former student, I was already in my 50s. I didn’t even bother to pick myself up; I was too sick. I didn’t have the energy to defend our daughter from critics who didn’t understand our way of parenting. Our daughter was reared in an open-communication way. What others considered as sassy comebacks were deemed normal expressions of ideas. As long she didn’t harm anybody nor herself!

I didn’t feel the need to defend my turf. Even as a depressed mom, I felt I didn’t have to prove myself to our daughter.

Our daughter has grown up. She is now London-based as an HR Director of a multinational company. I pray that the daughters and sons our daughter and of all my former students will cross over into adulthood in a normal manner and whenver and wherever possible in joy!

  The Law of Pragmatism makes energy workers of all varieties to stick with methods that produce results, regardless of whether these make sense to hostile observers. This can explain why for months I have been using the Ho’ oponopono mantra. After all  it attracted back to me an important book I misplaced twice!. I has made my nightmares less frequent. It has helped me with my anxieties over our daughter’s high level demands at work.

However, recently the Ho’oponopono healing stratagem has failed to relieve our daughter from seemingly insurmountable problems at work. It has affected even her health.

One night in near desperation I took hold of a novena to St Therese given by a well-meaning friend. I placed my cell phone on top of the novena and went to sleep. Hours after I was awakened to the sound of my phone. Goodness! Finally our daughter chose to connect.
Silly! But I enjoyed wrapping a rosary blest by the pope around the ankles of St Calungsod to heal the sprained ankle of our daughter. I even said one rosary. All of these, simply because they used to work for me.

This tops them all. Some evenings ago, our daughter called our landline. I couldn’t put in a word. She triumphantly announced her “very good” rating from her very demanding boss.
I was jubilant. How can I not go back to saying the rosary! It works wonders for pragmatic me.

As you enter into the Spiritual Zone, you will learn that in awakened consciousness, every action no matter how small, will intentionally support your end result. (Gary Quinn)