Other people should know what you are thinking. This is a rule written about in “Urban Shaman”

This rule/assumption according to Serge Kahili King has caused and is causing a great deal of personal and global grief.

I agree. My husband and I have countless points of agreement. Yet I am very different from him. He is such an extrovert and I am so introverted, sometimes to the point of being considered anti-social. And it is not due to my difficulty in walking!

I just love to be left alone. I am very happy with my own company. But I want the company of my husband, of course!

There were a few times I would have been angry with my husband for not doing what I wanted but luckily I realized early enough I did not tell him what I wanted.

His tastes are different from mine, even for food. His interests are to a great extent different from mine; I can’t relate with his interest in Philippine History especially the “babaylan” era.

There have been a lot of times I would have wanted to “unfriend” him on Facebook. He simply has too many friends I couldn’t care about – their posts I mean!

I appreciate how he cares for our potted garden. He buys our breakfast daily regardless of the weather. Whenever he can he gets me an extra crossword puzzle aside from what I get daily at breakfast. He mops our floors and often even throws the trash which is supposed to be my daily walking exercise -walking with my cane to the Trash room on the opposite end of our floor. He does shopping for me to save me from getting too tired walking in the mall.

The only housework that is exclusively mine is defrosting our fridge. I can’t imagine him doing the job without getting the whole condo wet and messy. We did not get a no-frost fridge when we moved to this condo because somebody I trusted told me a no-frost fridge was not good for the environment.

If I would let him , he would happily cook our meals. But I don’t allow him because I dread dealing with national disasters in the kitchen in exchange for palatable meals. Besides, I prefer to have meals ordered and delivered so I can choose the vegetables and when to have them!

Above all I appreciate my husband for allowing me to pursue my ever-changing spiritual evolution.