According to Alan Seale: “It takes time, energy, focused concentration, commitment and patience to master a new way of living, even if it is the path of your soul. We are creatures of habit and any habit takes time to change.”

“Why We Make Mistakes” wrote: “Habit is a great friend to us all, saving us time an much mental  effort. But  it can kill our ability to perceive novel situations. After a while we see only what we expect to see. We skim over things and see not details but  patterns.”

Sylvia Boorstein wrote: “…the mind acquired for this lifetime is equipped with its own particular idiosyncratic filters through which it processes experience.”

This may  explain why any program prepared by somebody else will sooner or later cause followers to be disappointed. Religious programs urging reliance on a higher power may  not work for everybody. “A Middle Way” by Mark Hay explains why.

Alan Seale continued: “Choice is something we must do for ourselves. No one else can choose it for someone else.”

Bente Hansen agreed “No one else knows exactly what is most  appropriate for
you.”

But  back in the 90s when I was diagnosed with severe clinical depression I could not understand why my many doctors what I wanted. Back  then  I naively believed the doctors had all the answers!!!! Even the top admin of my college asked what I wanted. They even offered to create a new position for me.

I could not understand Alan Seale’s: “We must learn to listen to the wisdom of or souls an trust its guidance.”

I now know my mind was just too tired to even think much less to make choices.
Fewer people then knew how to deal with depression.

What would have made sense then was  Alan Seale’s : “the ego longs for structure that sets boundaries and makes the rules for us.”