Boorstein: “Lovingkindness an awkward and somewhat quaint term in English is the translation of the Pali word metta which means complete and unrestrained friendliness.”

“The Buddha taught that when the mind is at ease it is friendly, congenial, well-wishing.”

“The mind at ease accommodates with compassion.”
The above indicates my mind is not at ease!

“People do special practices to cultivate friendliness.. Some of these are meditation practices…It might seem at first glance, that metta practice, friendliness practice is in behalf of other people. It is equally in behalf of ourselves.”

i believe that practice suggested by Boorstein has transformed me a bit. Meditation has made me a bit patient – just a bit.

In my case the practice of Metta is not for people I don’t like. It is for pesky flies that very often disturb me – when i am in bed, when I am working on my laptop, when I am praying. We have been using candles as suggested by Google. But it has not worked.

I can easily avoid people I don’t like. But there is no escaping those pesky flies. They seem to cling to me. It is almost hopeless to deal with these unreasonable flies. The few times that i can swat to death one or two flies is sheer victory for me.